How to know if your crush only sees you as a friend

Sometimes no matter how much you like someone, they just don’t like you back – in that way. They like you as just a friend, which may be even more painful than them not knowing you exist. When your crush only sees you as a friend, it’s like a form of torture. You can hang out with them, flirt with them and laugh with them, but your relationship never goes beyond this weird brother/sister dynamic. Sigh.

Girls aren’t the only ones who put guys in the “friendzone“. Guys can friend girls who are into them also. And, as most of you know, once you’re labelled just friends, it’s hard to make the transition to boyfriend/girlfriend. If you’re worried that your crush might only like you as his buddy, read on. Here are 8 signs your crush only sees you as a friend.

You’re The One Making All The Effort

If a guy likes you, he will put effort into the relationship. He’ll text you, call you, ask you to hang out, etc. If he’s not interested in that way, he won’t… it’s pretty simple. So if you notice that you’re always the one texting or calling or making plans with your crush, it’s possible that he doesn’t think of you as anything more than his buddy. Although a girl may exhibit initial apathy, you’d still notice some signs that she may be into you, but weighing her options.

S/He Starts Dating Someone Else

This may sound obvious, but sometimes when you have a crush, you really just want to believe that s/he likes you even if s/he’s with someone else. Here’s the thing: if you’ve made yourself obviously available to this person and s/he still ends up dating someone else, it’s because s/he just sees you as a friend.

S/He Never Gets Jealous

How would you react if you saw your crush flirting with other girls/dudes? You’d probably get jealous, hurt and annoyed, right? Right. if this person likes you and sees you flirting with someone else, s/he’ll get jealous. If s/he doesn’t, it’s because s/he’s not jealous.

S/He Laughs When Other People Ask If You’re A Couple

Pay attention to how s/he reacts if anyone ever asks if you guys are dating. If s/he gets sort of embarrassed and starts blushing, or puts his/her arm around you and seems into it, it’s probably because s/he wishes it were true. But if s/he laughs it off like it’s the most ridiculous thing s/he’s ever heard, it’s probably because s/he just doesn’t see you that way.

You’re Never Really Alone With Her

When you guys hang out, is it usually just the two of you, or does he always manage to include other people? Try suggesting you two do something alone together (Not sex or other immoral stuff) – if she invites other people, it’s because she doesn’t want there to be a date vibe. If she wanted the chance to hang with you alone, she would jump at any opportunity. If she always manages to bring along a group, it’s a bad sign.

He Talks To You About Other Girls

When a dude likes you, he wants to impress you – and he knows the way to do that definitely doesn’t involve talking about how hot another girl is. If he does that or asks you for dating advice or goes to you to complain about girl problems, it’s pretty likely that he only thinks of you as a friend he can talk to you.

He Tries To Set You Up With Other People

This one is pretty obvious, but listen up: if he tells you he has someone he wants you to meet or tries getting you to hook up with one of his friends, it’s not because he has some kind of secret crush on you. It’s because he thinks of you as one of the guys.