Have you ever wondered what makes some guys so popular with girls, and appear to have game while others are not so fortunate? I’m also sure you would really like to be one of those popular boys. You would certainly love to have Titi, Estelle, Cambili or Fatima on your Friends List.
What should you do? What are the secrets to making girls like you, and always want to be around you?
1. Go Slow
Keep in mind that rushing her to like you is not a good idea, because she will think you are desperate and lose interest in you. Even if you really like a girl, take things slowly when you are first getting to know her. Try to be her friend, and don’t tell her how you feel until she has become comfortable around you.
2. Take Care of Your Health and Your Looks
To make someone love you, you need to show that you’re capable of loving yourself first, that you have enough respect for yourself to care about yourself. Girls dig these little things! Take care of yourself. Groom yourself well – your hair, fingernails, and toenails – take daily baths, and use deodorants (guys, really? Still think you can go without?), maintain excellent oral hygiene, eat well, and be active so you can look strong, fit and healthy.
3. Find Legitimate Reasons To Talk To Her
This is not as hard as it sounds. You don’t have to have a super good excuse, you just have to have some sort of excuse to start off a conversation. Once that is done, talking to her again should not be as difficult. You could try something in the lines of “Hey, do you remember what the homework was?” or “Don’t you just like it when it rains while you sleep?”
4. Listen To Her. Focus All Your Attention On Her
Girls like to be listened to, and not just a half-hearted one. They want your ears. And while at it, focus your eyes on her. It shows you are attentive, and interested in them, and what they have to say.
5. Pay Her Compliments
Sincere compliments are another great way to get a girl to feel more comfortable with you. Just make sure that your compliments are direct, genuine and thoughtful. Compliment her looks, but also compliment her on things other than her appearance such as her intelligence, her creativity, and her determination. You could say ”I loved the way you solved that Physics problem”, or “You have such a wide vocabulary that I find myself admiring you.”
6. Live Your Own Life
While it is great to spend time with a girl you like, it is still important to make time for your own interests. Make sure that you do not stop doing the things that you love in order to spend time with a girl. She will be more attracted to you if she sees that you have a great life and that you are independent than if you need to be around her to feel happy. It will make you appear needy and clingy. Girls don’t like that.
7. Show Your Lovable Qualities
Don’t be fake. Show the good things about yourself. Let your personality shine through, and give her the chance to see who you really are and what you have to offer. It turns out that people find traits such as humour, kindness, respectfulness, honesty, hard work and intelligence really attractive, and this makes you more physically attractive!
8. Be Polite and Considerate, Supportive and Encouraging
If you are walking together, you can let her pass through the door first and pull out the chair for her. Treating her like a lady never goes out of style. This does not diminish your manliness in any way, rather it shows the strength of your character.
You should also support and encourage her. For example, get involved in activities that she enjoys and encourage her success, this you can do by high-fiving her when she aces her test, or clapping harder and longer when she answers a question correctly in class.
Would you get back to us on how well these tips have worked for you? I am sure it will.