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9 Signs You’re Not Ready To Say ‘I Love You’

Saying “I love you” in a relationship is a big deal. It’s scary to be vulnerable enough to tell someone you love them! So that’s why it’s really, really important to make sure you definitely do feel that way before you say it.

If you’re in a relationship, and you’re not sure whether or not you’re ready to say “I love you,” I understand. I’ve been there! But if you’re that stressed about it, you might not be ready. To know for sure, check out these 9 signs you’re not ready to say I love you:

You’re Not Ready For Sex

Telling someone you love him/her already makes you vulnerable to sexual advances from that person. It will make you commit yourself unnecessarily and want to please him/her even at your own expense. Your partner might also be taking full advantage of that fact and might force you into having sex.

Thinking About Saying It Freaks You Out

Usually when you’re ready to say “I love you,” you WANT to say it. You think about it all the time and you can’t stop wondering if s/he feels the same way. But if thinking about it makes you break out in hives, feel all sorts of panic, or make you doubt things, you’re not ready yet.

You Just Started Dating

Like I said… you shouldn’t say “I love you” unless you and your boo are super close. That means you shouldn’t just throw those words around.

You’re Not Ready To Give Up Any Control

Part of loving someone is being willing to compromise and do things their way some of the time. You have to be ready to be vulnerable and be able to put yourself out there. But if you’re feeling like you’re not ready to do that, then you’re not ready to say I love you. Loving someone is not about control.

You’re Really Not Sure If You Want A Relationship Or Not

If you’re in a relationship, but you keep feeling like maybe you would be better off single, you’re probably not ready for the commitment that comes with saying I love you. Love usually translates to commitment.

You Fight More Than You Get Along

Too much fighting is not good in any kind of relationship. If you two fight way more than get along, that’s not a great sign. It most likely means you’re not communicating enough, or just that you don’t mesh well. That doesn’t mean you should start saying you love each other – work out your issues first.

You’re Still Not Comfortable Enough To Be Yourself All The Time

Love means being able to totally be yourself around your partner. It means not freaking out about not having makeup on, or being able to cry in front of him without worrying about what you look like. It means being able to feel you all the time when you’re with him. If you don’t feel that way, you’re just not there yet.

Honestly, You Don’t See Much Of A Future There

Maybe you just don’t see the two of you being together that long, for whatever reason. If so, what’s the point of getting into serious commitment? If you think things aren’t going to last, it’s better to just end it.

You Feel Pressured To Say It

One of the biggest reasons people say “I love you” when they don’t mean it is because they feel an obligation to say it. Maybe it’s because he has said it to you already, or maybe it’s because you’ve been dating for a while and everyone around you is telling you it’s time. But don’t let this pressure get you to do something you’re not ready for! Everyone does things on their own time.

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