Hello,
I have a friend who’s a guy who likes me. He knows that I’m not interested in him, yet he still flirts with me every day. It’s getting really annoying and frustrating. How do I get him to stop flirting with me? I don’t want to ruin our friendship but I really can’t stand it anymore. I know this is probably really weird, but I kind of need some help here.
RESPONSE
Well, the good news is that there’s definitely a way to get to this guy to stop flirting with you. The bad news is that it might just be at the expense of your friendship.
There are always exceptions, but the typical young guy already digging on a girl won’t have the maturity to accept the “consolation prize” (as he’ll see it) of a platonic relationship with her. Whether your dynamic together has been lopsided from the start, or developed into a one-way romance over time, your friend is gonna have a tough time mentally placing you back into that “friendship box” – that is, if he can at all – once he’s already begun viewing you as something more.
Beyond making your position clear through verbal cues (which it sounds like you’ve already done if he knows that you’re not interested), you’ll have to back away from or break ties with this guy in order to find peace. Even if he is able to temporarily mask his emotions, he won’t be able to actually work past them until he gets enough distance from you.
Fortunately, it should be easier to avoid this guy than the dude who wouldn’t stop harassing his best friend’s girlfriend – and either way, cutting him off will certainly be less messy. For a smooth transition, be as decisive and clear about your wishes as possible. Your friend might be confused, hormonal, or hopelessly in love, but if you’re not picking up what he’s throwing down, don’t make it your problem when it’s ultimately his!
Good luck!
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3 thoughts on “Girl Talk: How to get your guy friend to stop flirting with you (without ruining your friendship)”
Just leave the guy cos he will never stop disturbing you. Such are even the ones the rape
I kinda fink every guy friend does this. She just have to be careful
..i had a girl friend,we dated 4 one nd d half years while we were in school nd within that period we were best lovers but along the line her and her ex boyfriend startd gettin along with eachother which made me 100% jealous..i wantd 2 no if she truly luv me like she said so i askd for a break up when i noticd al dis but she begged and told me not to think of it again,i did as she said for some time,,but because of my peers who always told me ridiculous thins about her nd dis her so called ex,i got her angry nd broke up with her..and now i really miss her nd i asked her 2 come back 2 me nd she was like “v still got her but dere wil b no emotional stretch attach to it”nd she assured me that she wasnt seeing any1 but i dnt just trust her..am so so confused right now..