Hi admin
My name is Shola, I happened to be the best student in my class, since the past two sessions, I’ve been on first position. I study well always for my exams and through this I ensure that nobody else takes the first position from me.
But recently I discovered that my classmates are my enemies, despite my love towards them, I realised that they hate me so much. How did I discover this? One day, as I tried to answer questions during a lesson, I heard someone whisper and say ‘What is wrong with this I TOO KNOW BOY’ and other people at the back said ”abi o ” Please what have I done to deserve this jealousy?
Response: Shola I will advice that you don’t stop having your A’s because of your classmates, to be the best in class is the desire of every students, they are jealous because they are not you. But really you should do the following to ensure peace in the classroom
Examine Your Actions and Intentions:
Look deep and ask yourself, are you doing anything that could be intensifying their feelings of jealousy? Are they in a bad situation in their lives and you’ve probably not being attentive to their needs? See if you can help them out in their difficult subjects.
Communicate with Your Friend:
Take the time to talk about it with your friend and see why they may be feeling the way they do. Don’t be surprised if the first reaction is one of denial or to say you are imagining things. Some people are not aware of how their jealousy manifests itself so let them know what you hear from them and how it makes you feel, using “I” statements like “when I hear you react this way, it makes me feel…”
Bridge The Gap:
If however they refuse to take responsibility for their actions and instead keep their fingers pointed at you, it’s probably time to evaluate whether you need to stay in this soul-draining relationship with your classmates or not. It might be time to let go and move on.
Get your class teacher Involved:
This might worsen the jealousy but i tell you; its the best thing to do. Your class teacher will help your mates to see reasons why they should not be jealous, and he will also encourage them to work hard too and counsel them.
Letting Go:
It has been said before and it remains true that as your practice transforms you and your life expands, some people around you will not be able to take the next steps with you—and sometimes they can actively resist your growth.
As much as you want to help your friend find happiness and release from jealousy, which is something they have to do themselves, It is their choice and no amount of cajoling on your part will get them there.
You probably don’t want to make any of your friends unhappy, so why let yourself be diminished and drained in the process as well? If you’ve followed the four steps above and the situation has not improved or gotten toxic, its best to understand that letting go is the only way. So, all you can do is forgive them for how they’ve hurt you. Related articles: What To Do When Friends Make Fun Of You For Not Being In A Relationship: https://passnownow.com/deal-everyone-makes-fun-relationship/
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