It’s been observed that teens lack assertiveness and this could inadvertently have adverse consequences in many areas of their life. There is a high probability that they might have trouble making friends, asking the opposite sex out on dates, communicating their needs in different situations, standing up for themselves during arguments or asking questions in school, even as an adult, it could negatively impact their chances for career success and ability to maintain healthy relationships.
Express your Feelings
Many teens are too intimidated to speak up and express their feelings. Their parents might have belittled them so they gave up trying, or they’re just not skilled in self-expression. It is important for you to know that your feelings are valued; I know this can help you feel that it’s safe to talk about them.
Learn to Say ‘No’
Have you ever been in situations where your parents, friends and colleagues constantly say “no” to you, you don’t have to give up trying to assert yourself especially because you are constantly being shot down, self-assertion is actually a healthy way to get what you need. However, you have to learn to say ‘no’ as much as it is required.
Value Your Opinions
Teens that have such low self-esteem find it difficult to believe the strength in their opinions, they tend to think their opinions and ideas are not valuable. You must stand tall to assure yourself that regardless of what people think about you, your opinions are valuable. You do not have to take responsibility for the way people react to your assertiveness; it is their choice to make.
Speak for Yourself
Many times, teens are invariably unassertive and that is why some of them tend to respond slowly to others and resist the urge to become the spokesperson. Sympathetic parents are usually tempted to jump in and speak for their shy sons during those awkward pauses, but by rescuing him, you’re sending him the dangerous message that he’s incapable of speaking for himself. Instead, such parents should embrace patience and allow him to speak, no matter how long it takes. Relish speaking up for yourself, do that always!
