Unrequited Love happens to everybody at least once in their life time. It is inevitable and always unexpected, leaving its victims emotionally-wrecked and almost helpless. This phenomenon is most peculiar to teenagers although adults may once in a while find themselves loving others who simply do not care. Here is the truth though- as bad as it may be to love someone dearly love and have them only but ignore you, that devastating feeling you feel is part of your emotional development. In other words, every teenager need to have their romantic emotions/expectations dashed every now and then so as to enable them better prepare for the real deal romantic life in their adulthood.
Now as mentioned before, this kind of reality isn’t just embarrassing, it is devastating. I mean…it is completely heartbreaking to truly love someone (or at least think you do) while they simply just ignore you or worst still tell you up front that a romance between you and [them] is impossible. But not to worry because in this article, I’ve expose you to some of the ways you can cope with unrequited love. Read on please…
TRY COMING TO TERMS WITH THE REALITY AND BID YOUR ILLUSIONS GOODBYE
When you are in love or infatuated, it is very easy to suppose that your subject of interest is equally in love with you. This is because your mind is filled with fantasies of what could be even as your judgment is beclouded by your feelings. This way, you are likely to stay awake at night having euphoric thoughts about someone who doesn’t even know you exist…like literarily. And when you eventually make known your feelings to [them], you are completely devastated when they turn you down. But instead of feeling bad about it, what you should indeed do is to come back to real terms and accept the situation for what it is- there are major differences between fantasies and real life.
LET THEIR SHORTCOMINGS DISCOURAGE YOU
As you may well know, nobody is perfect. That’s correct- nobody; including your crush. Agreed, we all tend to idealize people we have romantic attachments to. But then nothing discourages a romantic feeling as much as finding out the unappealing facts about the person for whom your romantic bubbles bursts. This is why it is advisable to pay closer attention to the “unfavourable” things about your crush; they will help you overcome him or her in no time, ultimately enabling you to overcome your unrequited love situation.
YOU CAN ALSO DISTRACT YOURSELF
When in love someone or at least think you do, you tend to find yourself constantly thinking about them. It’s like an obsession- you want to call them all the time, chat with them; be with them. This is even worse when this feeling is unrequited. Therefore, one good way to get over your unrequited love situation is distract yourself from the person who has become the centre piece of your world. Indulge yourself in activities that usually interest you [hobbies]. Who knows…perhaps you might even meet someone new this way.
YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF
It’s important for you to love yourself no matter what the situation is. Be in love with your personality by respecting yourself and accepting yourself just as you are. Interestingly, your ability to love yourself is like the best medicine to all kinds of mental illness!
