Forget “Bae” or Your Crush, Fall in Love With Yourself First!

1. Say, “I love you” to yourself

You may feel ridiculous saying self-affirming phrases such as, “I love myself,” or “I’m the best me I can be.” But we all need encouragement from time to time, and we should not rely on someone else to give it to us. Reminding yourself of your good qualities helps you build self-esteem, which will give you confidence in your relationships and career.

Don’t always think of boys, girls, or your crush. How often do you think of yourself? Find the time to focus on yourself, your journey, your dreams, goals and desires. Read a book, watch your favourite movie -anything that focuses on you.

Having this time to yourself makes you less clingy. It also gives you something to look forward to and self satisfaction, all of which will boost your level of joy and confidence.

3. Make time for your friends and family

Spend time with friends and family who nourish you, with whom you are at your best. Having time with them helps you foster bonds in the present, and that will last well into the future, because your family are your link to the past,and good friends walk with you when you are too scared to do it all alone. Yes, they are important!

If they are positive people, then they will likely reinforce your confidence too.

There’s a difference between being generous and getting stepped on. Once in a while, when someone asks you for a favour, you can say no if it interferes too much with your time or makes you feel uncomfortable. It should be give and take, never one way.

This ensures that resentment doesn’t build up, and that you not feel like you are being taken advantage of (in which case, you may be!) There should be as close to an equal balance of power in your relationships, as much as possible.

Life shouldn’t always be about other people, and their effect on you. It should also be about you, and your opinions of yourself too.