It is often rare to find girls who fall into all three categories, since on the average, girls are shorter than boys. Further, a girl must be really good looking for her to stand out in a group, and intelligence is an attribute equally spread across both genders. So, let’s take each one at a time.
Are Guys Intimidated By Taller and/or Attractive Girls?
It is a possibility that shorter guys could be intimidated by girls who are taller, since most guys are of the opinion that they MUST be taller than their mate. Also, some who are lacking in confidence may see an attractive or a taller girl and think “I have no chance with her” and move on.
But some who are more confident couldn’t care less about this, provided the girl is friendly and out-going, and does not look down on shorter or less attractive guys.
This reasoning can be applied either way. Some tall girls also feel that they couldn’t possibly condescend to date shorter guys – because of social norms – , as such they have their eyes set on guys who are just as tall, or taller than themselves. This mental attitude may become manifest in their personality – in the form of arrogance, aloofness, or impossibly high standards – which guys read quite accurately, and make them hold back.
This reasoning can also be applied to very attractive girls who may come across as being untouchable, making most guys avoid them for fear of being cut down to size.
This reasoning can also be applied to very attractive girls who may come across as being untouchable, making most guys avoid them for fear of being cut down to size.
What about Intelligent Girls?
Some guys with really low self-esteem have a problem with intelligent girls, because they believe that they ought to be superior to their mate in all ways. Surprised? Well, it’s not the rule. Most guys though, like girls who can stimulate them intellectually, and with whom they can discuss intelligently.
Such guys think it is something of a jackpot if you get a girl that has got both beauty and brains to boot!
Such guys think it is something of a jackpot if you get a girl that has got both beauty and brains to boot!
In general, what’s more important is that guys should realise that girls have about the same insecurities – they also wonder if they are good enough, if they will catch the eye of a certain guy, or if they have to be more than they currently are – and knowing this reduces the “mystique” about them to a reasonable level, enough to convince yourself that you can make a go for it.
After all the worst that could happen isn’t death, only a bruised ego from rejection. And that guys, is how resilience is learnt. It is a life skill that MUST be learnt, no getting around it. You will have to learn how to deal with rejection somehow, even if not relationship-wise.
Also, girls who fall in one or more of these categories should not make a game of intimidating guys. They can achieve this when they do their absolute best not to be judgmental, condescending, or untouchable. This though, does not mean that they should water down their attributes, or become less of who they are to soothe a guy’s ego. No! The balance here is to have a good opinion of self, but not think of themselves more than is necessary.
