Teens having a healthy sex life means many things to many people. For some, it means steering clear of disease and pregnancy. For some, it means abstinence, and for others, it’s a moral dilemma. The truth is this: whether adults approve or not, many teens have sex. While you can have a healthy sex life, it’s not required at all, but the choice is ultimately one you will make. These steps may help you have a safe and healthy sex life, in whatever form that takes.
Educate yourself. Many teens do not know that one can become pregnant from having sex once or that one can obtain an STI (sexually transmitted infection) from different kinds of sex. The more you know, the healthier you can be and the smarter your decisions will be.
Talk to your parents/guardians. Talking with your friends about sex is okay, but they are teenagers just like you. It may seem weird, awkward, or gross but talking to your parents and asking questions about sex will be the best advice you will get since they have been through it. It may even bring you closer to them.
Enjoy the make out session but keep your limits firmly in place. If his (or her) wandering hands land where you don’t want them, don’t just try to block the move with your body language: move them away with your own hands, and say “No, I’m not ready for that.” They should get the idea immediately, and respect you enough to stop that approach.
Break off the make out session if it gets too hot for either of you to handle. It’s completely natural to feel desire, but it’s not required that you act on that. If you find yourself suddenly overwhelmed with passion, but are committed to remaining chaste for now, simply back off a bit and say something like “wow, that’s hot, but I’m not ready to go further right now. Let’s go have a walk.“Related article: Boyfriends, Girlfriends,What Parents Need To Know About Teenage Dating
- If your friend doesn’t understand, or is insistent, don’t be surprised: they may not be quite as ready to stop as you are, and might be a little confused and flustered. However, if they remain insistent, or demanding, or even attempt emotional blackmail such as “If you loved me you would keep going,” send them home to cool down, and re-think if you want to be in that situation with them again. But then, the best way to avoid temptation is to avoid causing it in the first instance. You don’t want to get involved in what you will regret later on.
