It’s normal for parents to be mostly disinterested in the things that fascinate teenagers. After all, there is a huge difference between parents and teenagers. But then, in order for parents to really have good relationships with their children, it is necessary for them [parents] to learn to show interests in some of the things their teenagers are interested in. I understand that this may not be very easy to accomplish because sometimes it can be extremely hard to just connect with them teens. Yet, you really have to try because not only is it important that you maintain good relationship with them, being close to your children is absolutely critical to helping them navigate through life.
That said, you should do the following to be interested in the things that interest your teens-
STOP FORCING YOUR INTERESTS: Most parents find this difficult to do. As a matter of fact, they would rather prefer that their teenagers be interested in the same thing that they [parents] are interested in. But it doesn’t work this way in real life. Just because you like a particular sports doesn’t mean your son must too. Just because you read a certain kind of book doesn’t mean every child of yours must too. If you are the sort of parent who constantly tries to force your teen to like the same things you like, not only would you fail, you must also cause some friction between you and your child in the process.
ALLOW THEM CHOICE: It’s important for parents for sometimes allow their teenagers to do the choosing. Ask them what they’d like the family to have for dinner. Doing this indicates that you respect their independence and recognize that they have their own interests.
MAKE TIME TO LISTEN TO THEM: Make it a point to listen to what they say, whether it’s to you, siblings, other family members, or their friends. They may be frequently mentioning something they’re interested in – in the hopes that someone will talk to them about it. Don’t miss this critical chance to connect.
ASK THEM TO TEACH YOU: Be prepared for some eye-rolling or teasing, but it’s worth it. Ask them to teach you how to use a new app, or have them show you the new game they’re playing with their friends. If they’re into a series of books – read them. If they are getting into a new sport, club, or activity – ask them to teach you the basics. It goes a long way.
