Every parent knows that parenting teenagers is never easy. It can be such a daunting struggle, capable of making you feel like you’re losing your grip every passing day. This is a feeling known to every single parent who has ever raised a teenager. So relax; you are not alone in this struggle. Perhaps you should find solace in the fact that there are available solutions to this sort of problem. Consider the scenarios below and solutions to them-
WHEN YOUR TEENAGER HATES YOU: Whether they say it to your face or merely imply it by their conducts (rolling their eyes when you’re talking to them; anybody?) it’s typical of every teenager to hate their parent[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][s] at some point or the other in their lives. Boys can particularly be very confrontational during this phase, making it obvious that you are hated and that there is nothing you can do to them. And the natural thing usually is for parents to equally respond with much harshness, thereby severing the relationship even further. But that’s not how to go about it.
So what should you do? You should do your best to ignore the eye rolling and outright insolent looks. Provide an environment of support instead. Still, ensure to lay down some rules specifying appropriate behavior as well as the consequences for breaking such rules. For example, they are not to be allowed to be outright rude or disrespectful. In any case, do your best to tolerate them; bearing in mind that soon they will turn around. And if this helps, you should know that they realize how much they truly need you every day.
WHEN YOUR TEENAGER FEELS LIKE [THEIR] LIFE IS OVER: This is most common with teenage girls. If you have one of such, you may sometimes observe an exponential increase in emotion and drama. Everything is a big deal to them. They are easily irritated and they feel like their whole world is out of country. Typically, parents (especially mothers) find it hard to deal with the drama. So they simply dismiss the teens. But what if I told you there is a better way to deal with this problem. For one, allow your teenager to freak out a little bit, but always be there to listen. This way, not only are you expressing love and interest, but letting her talk through things can help her to realize that not everything is life or death.
WHEN YOU DON’T LIKE THEIR FRIENDS AND THEY DON’T LIKE THAT: Teenagers often make bad choices with friends. And as soon as parents express dislike over their friends they become defensive and even secretive. This can cause a lot of hostility. But it doesn’t have to be. Parents must therefore try to know their teenagers’ friends. Ask your teen about their friends with genuine, polite interest. Try your best to not judge them. Who knows…perhaps their friends are really not as bad as you’d think. But if indeed your teenager is friends with people who are bad for them, talk calmly to them on why this is the case.
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