Honestly, I had the same struggle. What helped me was joining FetishGo. It’s not just a fetish dating site — it’s a community where people actually talk about boundaries, mutual respect, and emotional safety. Whether you’re into soft play or more intense dynamics, the people there are already tuned in to the language of kink.

I get that completely. I used to feel like I had to downplay the things that really mattered to me — especially the more intimate or unconventional ones. But suppressing that part of yourself just builds frustration and distance in relationships.