Choosing if to have sex for the first time is one of the heaviest decisions of a person’s life. Sex can affect your relationship, your emotions, your health, and your future; so while you and your friends may think it is totally normal and natural to want to take things to the next level, I am certain you have not thought through the responsibilities attached to it.
Read through the questions below, have an open and honest conversation with yourself. Don’t be afraid to chat with someone you trust before you rush into losing your virginity, or having sex.
1. Can I Handle the Emotions that Come with Sex?
Sex can bring you closer to your partner and make your relationship feel stronger. But it can also intensify the negative emotions you experience when something goes sour, like a fight or a breakup. The truth is, sex can make you feel more attached to someone and subsequently more vulnerable and hurt if things don’t work out.
2. Have I Considered My Health?
Some STDs are curable and others are not. This is why it is so, so important to be responsible when it comes to matters of sex. While you may have heard that condoms help decrease the risk of acquiring a sexually transmitted disease, but only if they are used appropriately. Question is, how certain are you of the guarantees?
3. How Sure am I of the Other Person?
Did it ever cross your mind that the person you will be having sex with may have a baggage of sexually transmitted diseases? It only takes one sexual encounter to be exposed to sexually transmitted diseases that can last a lifetime! Be wise.
4. What About the Possibility of Pregnancy?
You often hear randy guys who have been confronted with the evidence of their toss in the hay say “But it was only once!” That’s just how long it takes to get an egg fertilised!! And condoms aren’t always the most reliable way to prevent an unplanned pregnancy.
Hence, doctors always suggests that all those who are sexually active consider additional birth control options.
With all these points highlighted, the next question that naturally follows is; are you prepared for all the attendant responsibilities that accompanies having sex? Because if you are old enough to have sex, you most certainly are old enough for the responsibilities it entails, as well as what may result from your actions.
