This article first appeared in a Kidshealth.org article and has been adapted here.
I’m a 16-year-old guy and I just found out my new family doctor is female. I’m really nervous about this because she might need to see or touch me down there.
I also have some questions about sex. Should I tell her this?
Seeing a doctor for whatever reason can be nerve -wracking. It may feel extra difficult if the doctor is a member of the opposite sex. However, doctors are there for important reasons, and so is asking any question that troubles you, since doctors are your best resource for answers.
It might help you to know that she has probably examined hundreds or even thousands of young men during her career. She will be looking at you in the same way that a male doctor would — as a patient. Chances are, she has heard and seen your problems before and helped other guys deal successfully with the same issues you are facing.
You could discover that she makes you feel at ease right away. If perchance, you are still a bit nervous, ask if you can spend some time talking to the doctor before you are examined. You can also bring your questions written down on a piece of paper. Then if you get nervous, you can look at it to remember your concerns. You could even give the doctor your list.
If you still feel uncomfortable after meeting with the female doctor and think it will keep you from talking about sex, and other private issues, or having an exam; ask if there’s a male doctor in the practice whom you could see instead.
Your health depends on the information you give your doctor. You need to be able to talk about any issues you have, ask questions, and answer your doctor’s questions honestly. Your doctor just wants to help you, so be open and honest about things you are thinking or feeling. That way, your doctor can check out possible problems, and answer any questions you have.
