When you really like someone, it’s easy to ignore any of the red flags that they might not be, well… the best guy in the world. Even when the flags are flying high, and everyone else can see it, we tend to ignore the bad things about our crushes. We put on our rose-coloured glasses, pursue a relationship because our judgment is clouded by love, and then find ourselves stuck in a sucky situation.

Before you get involved in a relationship with someone, you should make sure that these warning signs aren’t present. If they are, you could be asking for a lot of trouble. Wouldn’t you rather avoid a messy or potentially abusive relationship if you could? Here are 9 warning signs you shouldn’t date him – even if he is super cute and charming. I know, girl. But you deserve better.

His Anger Has Actually Really Scared You Before

Has he ever got so angry that he’s actually scared you? If so, run away. If his anger is out of control, it’s highly possible that a relationship could turn abusive. Even if it hasn’t been directed towards you yet, it probably will be in the future. Don’t dismiss serious anger like it’s no big deal – it is something you should be worried about, especially if you don’t know him very well.

He Doesn’t Want To Be Around You In Public

If you guys have been hanging out and have a little something going on, but he refuses to let anyone else know – major warning sign. Yeah, he could just be private, but… probably not. If he won’t let you write anything on social media or refuses to be seen in public with you, that’s a problem.

You’ve Caught Him Lying

If you guys aren’t even dating yet and you’ve already caught him in more than a few lies, that’s obviously a huge warning sign. What, do you think that if he becomes your BF he’ll become more truthful? Doubtful.

He’s Cheating On His Girlfriend

It sounds obvious, but a lot of people ignore this warning sign because they want to: if this guy is cheating on his GF with you, that’s a warning sign. It means he’ll probably cheat on you too! And if he’s flirting with you while he has a girlfriend, what do you think he’ll do to you if you’re his girlfriend? Don’t trust a guy who is shady like this.

He’s Mean To Other People

Do you notice that he’s really mean and rude to other people, whether it’s his friends, family members or strangers? If so, that’s a warning sign, even if he’s really sweet to you. It’s a sign that when he gets more comfortable with you, he’ll probably be just as mean and rude to you.

You’ve Only Met Him Online

Online dating is fine, but I’m talking about a different situation. If you meet a guy online and you’ve been talking for a while, but he keeps putting off hanging out for some reason… take that as a warning sign that something weird is going on. Meeting people online is risky enough as it is. If you suspect any shady behaviour, get out of there.

A Lot Of People Have Told You He’s A Jerk

I believe in making my own impressions of people regardless of what others say. However, if multiple people have told you that this guy is a total jerk, tread carefully. They’re not telling you that for no reason.

He’s Already Told You He Has Commitment Issues

If you guys haven’t made anything official yet, but you want to, and he’s told you he has commitment issues… you might want to go in the opposite direction. Don’t assume he’ll change his mind out of nowhere. If he’s telling you that, it’s because he means it! And if you guys don’t want the same things, that’s a problem.

He’s Tried To Push You To Do Something You’re Uncomfortable With

Even if it’s over something small, you shouldn’t date a guy who pushes you to do things that make you feel uncomfortable. The person you date should never pressure you into anything. He should be supportive and understanding. This is a major warning sign!