#PNN E-MENTORING (kayla chanai): So After The SEX, What Next?

Welcome everyone! Last week was a little digression from our topic of sex, but today we are returning to it. Before we continue, I would like to ask you to remember our abducted girls in your prayers and also keep praying for Nigeria.

I have spoken to many teenagers who have had sex and the responses seem to be the same; they all feel some sense of regret or guilt. Why the guilt? Is it normal to feel guilty after having sex for the first time? Especially if your parents don’t know you’re sexually active or you weren’t ready for sex yet? Yes it is!

It is common to feel guilty, confused, sad, and a whole host of other emotions. A lot of young people are influenced into thinking that sex is no big deal. Sex is a big deal and will be a more satisfying experience when you feel emotionally confident and recognize the responsibility that comes along with it.

You may have jumped the gun but that is in the past. What is important now is that you find someone who you can talk to about how you are feeling; a parent, relative or school counselor. Friends aren’t always the most reliable source since most of them are trying to make sense of it themselves and remember that’s why we are here. You can talk to me. I’d love to help you. 

Whatever you’ve done yesterday cannot be changed, but you can change your tomorrow by making better decisions today. You can choose to standout by setting high standards for yourself. It’s never too late.

Sometimes it’s hard to stand out, when you’d rather just sink into the crowd. It’s easier to go along with what everyone else is doing, than to stand strong in your faith and state what you truly believe. However, I’m here to tell you that it’s not worth all the hype! Setting your expectations high, will encourage you to stand by your faith. It doesn’t make you any better than anyone else, never assume that. It does however make life easier in the long run. 

Teenage years no doubt can be tough, junior and secondary school can be rough. It’s full of challenges and temptations that can sometimes lead you off your path. But it’s never too late to return to that path. Set your goals, and stick to them. Believe it or not, sometimes the people who tease you the most, are actually watching you and are intrigued by your lifestyle. Remember it’s your life, you have to rise up and live it!