Hello teens! Let’s talk about the importance of Peer Relations; shall we? I have no doubt that most of you always feel the need to relate with peers. This post is however targeted more at those who are reclusive in nature and find it difficult making friends. Several Leading Psychologists have come up with research findings establishing that teenagers who fail to develop positive Peer Relationship skills stand at risk of developing antisocial problems such as hooliganism/delinquency, depression and substance abuse. This is unlike those teens that easily make new friends, have increased self-esteem and are emotionally balanced.
It is important to point out that most reclusive teenagers reclusive not necessarily because they want to be, but because they can’t help it. As a matter of fact they need help, said help which this post tries to offer. Please consider the following discussion points and use them as yardsticks to evaluate your current friendships status and improve on it.
IDENTIFY DESIRABLE QUALITIES: Everybody expects their prospective friends to possess certain desirable qualities; after all, it is important to befriend people who share the same qualities. And for reclusive teenagers, this is one huge challenge when it comes to making new friends. But as challenging as it may be, there is a way to deal with it. For instance, we all meet new people every day. So what reclusive teenagers can do to help their situations is to look around for those who possess desirable qualities. Through close examination, there will always be that classmate who possess some (if not all) of qualities that interest you. Get to be friends with [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][them].
CHOOSE FRIENDS WHO TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT: Nobody wants to be treated like trash; at least not by people they call “friends”. And this is one reason some teenagers are reserved, preferring to be without friends. But there is a way around this. Since we have already established that you can carefully choose your friends, look out for people who make you feel good in your own skin. The truth is that we all need friends and since teenagehood is a time when the greatest degree of conformity and susceptibility to peer pressure occurs, it is important to make friends with people who accept you for who you are and who will not pressure you into doing what is bad for you. If possible, choose friends who respect you for who you are without the demand that you conform to [their] expectations.
MAKE AN EFFORT TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE: Building interpersonal relationships does not always come easily. Sometimes it can be really hard to ‘put yourself out there’ and meet new people. But it’s good to bear in mind that you are not the only one who is shy, neither are you the only one who wants to meet new people. Therefore, it’s important for you to start conversations with new people that you don’t know by complimenting something about that person. By giving someone a compliment you are instantaneously putting the other person into a positive frame of mind as well as establishing yourself as a caring and thoughtful person.
I hope these tips help you. All the best, please!
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