We all sometimes get into the bad book of our parents. Even if you kinda feel justified for the action that got you into trouble, you still have to lower your ego by appeasing your parents. After all, you can’t do without them.
In case your first plain, boring “I’m sorry.” doesn’t work for your mum, here are some steps and tips that may help and some warnings!
- Don’t try to talk to her when she’s mad at you, that will most likely make her more upset. Give her some alone time to cool off, then approach her gently with love.
- Your parents aren’t yelling at you because they dislike you or hate you, it’s because they care a lot, and just don’t want you making bad choices which will make an impact in your future. They are just trying to do you good.
- Try not to be in the boiling water for long. The more you stall and not apologise, the more your mother will be waiting, and getting sadder by the minute.
- Stay calm. Don’t go and make big decisions like moving out, or running away, and never think about committing suicide, because not only will your friends and parents miss you, there are lots of people in the world you may not know, but who will still miss you and come to your funeral.
- Don’t shout at your mum because she is your mother and she deserves respect from you. If you’re angry with her, don’t do things that would only make her angrier, like stomping and slamming doors and arguing with her.
- Remember, even if you think that your parents hate you or don’t want you to be in their life anymore, think to yourself, “Didn’t they raise me since I was a baby?” If you know the answer, then just try as hard as you can to lighten the mood the next day.
- After she yells, say, “I understand, but I’m trying to make up for what I did. I wasn’t trying to make you mad. I just wasn’t thinking and you are completely right about everything.” But take what you say seriously.
- When she’s lecturing/talking to you, just nod and don’t answer back. Just accept that you’re wrong and she has every right to do so. But don’t nod and barely listen to her. Though she may have repeated the words many times, pay respect to her. Whatever she’s saying is good for you.
- If you feel scared to approach her, wait until she cools down a bit, find another way to approach her (e.g. a letter), or add a slight bit of humour, (However, if she is still quite upset, do not try to do this.) to help her cool down faster.
- Do not fight with siblings or other members–ever. That would be the way to show your mother that everything she said to you went in an ear and out the other.
- Although the steps tell you to apologise and say you love her, do not do it over and over and over again. That will just annoy the hell out of her. When she doesn’t reply, just mumble sorry again and walk to your room or living room. Sometimes, she may not be ready to forgive you just yet but always believe that someday, she would have to forgive you. No matter how bad your mistake…
- Act like you feel bad so she will ask what’s wrong and you tell her that you don’t know if she’ll forgive you.
- Don’t get an attitude!
- When she gets mad at you don’t feel bad for yourself, just think of ways to make the situation better. Your mum will just get annoyed if you start crying and won’t talk to her.
- Don’t lock yourself in the room and go on a “diet”!
- Don’t say things she doesn’t want to hear.
- Don’t wait like 2 days to say sorry. Your siblings, or your dad might call you and say “You need to say sorry NOW!” If your mum is busy cooking, or doing chores, try helping her, or talk to her, a little. If she ignores you, then just leave and wait. Do some other chores around the house to ease her up a bit.
- If you have made the same mistake over and over again, then you should explain to her that you really are ready to change and maybe write her a letter.
- Do all you can to make amends.
- One thing you should not do… is mess up, but in a different way. That’s just proving your mother right when she says you’re a “bad child”.
- Don’t ever yell at your mother…it will make everything worse.
- Believe you can get her trust back; understand that it will take some work getting her back on your side, but you will!
- Don’t ignore her; that is one of the things that will make her even madder. While she understands that you’re a teen who makes mistakes and that you are angry, you have to know that she is doing this just because she loves you and is protecting you.
- Lastly, never do it in the first place because it is not good.