I believe this ranks high up there in the awkward department with dating your friend’s ex or their sibling. You may have spotted a total sweetie and are absolutely swooning over his chocolate brown eyes when you find out your BFF has a crush on the same guy!
As if crushing wasn’t hard enough, now you have to think about your bestie liking him, too. Stand easy, below are some problem busters for you.
1. Don’t panic
It’s OK. It’s obvious that you girls aren’t pals for nothing, that you have similar tastes in guys. There’s seriously no reason to get all worked up about it and make things awkward. Your ability to work this out successfully will be evident of both your maturity.
2. Evaluate your true feelings
Make a list of pros and cons about this guy (that is, positives, and negatives). Write down his best traits and some things that you guys don’t necessarily have in common. For example, a pro can be that he is super funny. A con? He’s a total gamer and you don’t know anything about that. When you are done with the list, think about your real feelings for this guy. Is he someone you really see yourself with, or is it just a little temporary crush?
3. Talk to your BFF
As in most situations, being open and honest is one of the best things you can do. It might be a good idea to get together with your bestie and talk about how the school year is going or how you are each doing in your hardest subject. Then, bring up the boy you are crushing on. Let her know that you have spotted him and think he’s cute. She will probably let you know that she’s into him too, and what she thinks about you also liking him. Maybe you agree that one of you likes him more, or that you both just prefer to be friends with him. Only talking directly to your BFF will help you figure this one out. Plus, if she’s a true friend, she won’t get upset with you about being honest.
Hopefully your friend will understand your feelings and you will be able to talk it out. If she’s feeling extra sensitive about the situation and isn’t being the most understanding right away, just remember that good friendships are hard to come by and shouldn’t be thrown away because of a guy who may not mean much to you by the end of the school year. Give her some time. Chances are she will be able to talk about it with you when she feels ready.
Have you and your bestie ever crushed on the same? What did you do? Do give us the deets.
See Also: Is It Ever OK to Date Your Friend’s Ex?
