You may have heard people – perhaps your parents and older ones – refer to these words as “magic words.” Why so? What makes them magical?

It’s because they are simple social graces that smoothen our interactions with others. It shows the depth of our respect for them, or appreciation for something they have done. It is not even uncommon to say “Thank you” to someone whom you paid for a service rendered. Why should I? you may ask. Didn’t I pay him for his service? Yes, you may have paid him for the service, but your polite expression of thanks is for the human – it makes us feel good when someone observes and  commends us – how much more should you then unselfishly spread this feeling around?

“Please” also makes the whole difference when you seek someone’s favour. There is this warm feeling that it produces in the recipient, that moves him to want to help you.

Have you observed similar feelings yourself? How do you feel when Mom, who has more authority of the two of you politely asks that you do something for her? And have you noticed how your friends, siblings, or parents feel when you say “Thank you” for something that they did for you?

Now, reverse these scenarios. How do you feel when your Mom or Dad shouts out an order and expects your immediate compliance? Or when a friend completely disregards something you have done for him or her? It hurts, doesn’t it? It goes to show that humans, irrespective of age, want people’s respect and appreciation.

”Please” and “Thank you” should be integral parts of our vocabulary, not only because they make our interactions more agreeable, but also because they strengthen our social connections, and  are perfect examples of good breeding, thoughfulness, and an unselfish attitude.