A certain girl who will remain unnamed confessed to having TWO guys who have admitted to her that they like her. Her dilemma? She doesn’t know what to do, especially as they get jealous of each other when she shows “attention” (when really, all she’s doing is chatting) to one but not the other.
She doesn’t know who she likes more. What should she do?
First of all, these guys need to chill. Neither of them have any right getting jealous about her chatting with the other one, since she is not in a relationship with either of them! But she also needs to figure out exactly what it is that she wants.
True, she may not be doing it on purpose, but stringing along two people will obviously get her nowhere. In the end, it will make one of them, or maybe even both of them, really angry with her. So, she needs to do some serious thinking to figure out which of these guys she likes better.
How?
1. Well, she can start by getting to know both of them better – and making both aware of this, to check if they are down with it.
2. Speaking to them privately, when the other one isn’t around to get angry with her.
3. Talking through texts, on the phone, Facebook messages, and going out on separate dates with both. This should not be kept up for too long though, after all, it is a sifting process. It shouldn’t take an eternity!
It can be really difficult to choose between two people, not only because you don’t want to make the wrong choice, but also because you don’t want to hurt anyone. But if she puts their feelings aside for a moment, and focus on what makes her happiest, soonest, she will realise who the right one is, and whoever that is, it would be wise if she gave him a chance.
Now, she should proceed to explain to the other guy that while she cares about him a lot, she just doesn’t feel the same way he feels. But once the “right” person has been picked, things MUST be ended completely with the other. It would be wrong, selfish and disrespectful to keep him around as a “backup” or anything like that.
And what if she doesn’t like either of them? It would be best to tell them just that – gently of course. Saying that, while she likes them as friends, she doesn’t feel anything more than that. This is a kind way of putting them down, and at the same time express the hope that they try to understand how she feels.
