A popular Taylor Swift song goes:
When you are 15, and somebody tells you they love you, you are gonna believe them / And when you are 15 and your first kiss makes your head spin round / But in your life, you will do things greater than dating the boy on the football team / But[you wouldn’t] know this at 15.
It is on this note that we have compiled a list of 13 facts about life which you may not know now, except with the benefit of hindsight and experience of someone older. And here they are:
1. Just because a guy likes another girl doesn’t mean that girl is better than you
Maybe he’s into girls who are tall and thin, and you are more of a curvy girl. Don’t get down on yourself because you are not his type—you will eventually find a guy who likes you for you.
2. You never have to do anything you don’t want to, even if you are dating
At times, No is the last thing the person you are dating wants to hear. If that be the case, it may be time to rethink your relationship. You should only do what makes you comfortable and be with someone who wants you to feel safe and happy.
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3. Never date a guy just because you feel bad saying No
If you don’t like him or are not up for dating just yet, it’s not worth either of your time! Let him down easy and explain that you would still love to be friends.
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4. Boys aren’t mind-readers
Feeling upset or frustrated? Sit down and have a real conversation about your feelings instead of ignoring his texts. He might not be picking up your signals, and you would just be causing unnecessary drama.
5. Boys will come, and girls will go, but true friends will remain
That you have heard this a million times must mean there’s some truth in it! Don’t take your pals for granted and leave them in the dust once you are lovey dovey with someone. After all, who’s going to be by your side when you two have a fight?
6. Playing games never ends well
Playing hard to get, flirting with everything that looks like a female, or trying to make another jealous may seem like a great plan of action; but trickery is never a good start to a relationship. The best way to land the perfect partner is by being open and honest.
7. Dressing like you are 25 won’t make boys like you
Wearing tight, low cut tops and pounds of makeup will get a guy’s attention, but chances are they will only be enjoying the view and not actually you. Stay true to yourself and a boy who likes you for your personality will fall for you.
8. Never have serious conversations over text
Pick up the phone or meet up in person to talk about a fight or end a relationship. If you are mad, you are way more likely to say things over text that you wouldn’t say over the phone or in person. The last thing you want is to have your relationship put on blast by sharing screen shots of your fight with all his buddies, or her girl pals.
9. You may be totally head over heels, but not everyone needs to know
Keep some of the special moments to yourself. All your twitter followers do not care about an adorable “Good morning beautiful” or “Have a nice day, darl” text that you received from you-know-who. Also, some things are more romantic when just the two of you know about them.
10. If he/she tells someone they don’t want to date you, they don’t want to date you
Sometimes it’s hard to accept the reality that you and your crush will never be an item. Sometimes, nice guys may seem like they are flirting when they are just trying to be a friendly. If your crush tells someone he doesn’t like you romantically, trust that he’s telling the truth. And if the girl of your dreams tell you the two of you will only happen in your dream, take her word for it.
11. Always check with a friend before you start dating their crush or ex
Maybe your crush has finally made a move and asked you out, but your friend has been eyeing him too. Before you and your new date announce your relationship, make sure she’s cool with it. Keep your friend’s feelings in mind, too, and try not to rub the fact that he chose you in her face.
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12. Just because all of your friends are dating doesn’t mean you should too
You might be living the single life and loving it, but your friends keep trying to set you up with their friends. Or maybe you are jealous of what you think they have, but can’t find someone you like. It’s okay—just be patient, and wait for the right time for you.
13. Never give up something you love for a boy or girl
You really love being on your school’s debate team, but your crush is looking for a partner for a JET tournament and they are at the same time. Don’t sacrifice what you love for a chance to chat up with some guy or girl. Instead, find another way to get to know that cutie better.
And there you have it.