Confidence comes from within you. Confidence is also what you show on the outside despite, or to hide, what you feel inside. You may have the tools and skills to do anything you want in the world but without confidence nothing will be done.
Okay, so we all know there are times when we may lack confidence, particularly when we are faced with something new or daunting. Sometimes, despite our lack of confidence, we do it and sometimes we don’t. This is a temporary lack of confidence that can be overcome by experience and learning.
What is really debilitating is when we feel we lack confidence to attempt to do anything. This is more than just a temporary loss of confidence. This is a total lack of confidence that may be allied to low self esteem and a negative self image.
People who lack confidence will often also have a negative image of themselves or their skills. They may also feel that they lack control or direction in their lives, in many cases they may feel that someone or something else is controlling or determining the path of their lives. They can also feel that any success they achieve goes unrecognised or is ‘claimed’ by someone else.
These other people or forces controlling the person may be their parents, schools or institutions, the government, their boss or company, spiritual force such as ‘fate’.
What does become a problem is when a person lacks confidence in their own self image or in their own belief in themselves. This is more serious and in such cases the lack of confidence is likely to affect the person’s performance in many areas of their life and hinder them in leading a fulfilling and happy life.
What are the effects of lack of confidence?
Let me outline the crippling effects that can and will happen to you if you continue to possess a lack of confidence in your everyday life:
- You cannot achieve if you do not believe
- You always see the negative in everything; hence, you condition yourself for failure
- Your health gets affected
Being positive makes your life a healthier and longer life!
Do not let your lack of confidence stop you from having your well deserved life of satisfaction and happiness, so be your own master and prevail! Go forth; don’t be scared of making mistakes, or what other people will say about you. Even if in your action, you did mess up and people laughed at you, it would only last for that moment. Guess what, by the time you make it right, the same people will come cheering you all the way. Always remember that it’s far better to be a fool for a moment, than to be a fool forever.
